Children/Infant Lobe Piercings

When it comes to piercing minors, consent is everything. I prefer not to pierce childen that cannot pick a color and converse with me. Before I pierce a child’s ears, I look for several clear signs that they are truly ready and comfortable—not just going along with what someone else wants.

Verbal Consent

A child who is ready can clearly say they want their ears pierced.

They can repeat that decision consistently when asked again, without changing their mind.

Most importantly, the desire comes from them—not from pressure by a parent or sibling.

Body Language Matters

Positive signs include sitting calmly, leaning in, showing their ears when asked, nodding, smiling, and asking questions.

Red flags include pulling away, crying, hiding, shaking their head “no,” covering their ears, or not being able to follow simple directions.

If a child says “yes” but their body is saying “no” through tears, squirming, or resistance, that is not consent. Ethically and morally, I will not continue in those situations.

Signs a Child Is Truly Ready

They can explain in their own words what is about to happen and understand it may hurt a little.

They show more curiosity and excitement than fear.

They are able to sit calmly during an anatomy check and cleaning.

They ask thoughtful questions like, “Does it hurt?” or “How do I take care of it?”—showing they understand responsibility.

My Role as a Piercer

It’s my responsibility to check both anatomically appropriateness, ensure verbal and non-verbal consent every step of the way.

If a child looks unsure, or says no. I pause or stop—regardless of encouragement or cosent from others.

My rule is simple: No clear yes, means no piercing.

It’s extremely important to me that I only pierce children who truly understand what a piercing involves and are okay with it being uncomfortable for a moment. I always encourage parents to bring their child in and watch them get an ear piercing the or come in for a free walk-through first—no pressure, just education and comfort. A appointment is encouraged. 

At the end of the day, the worst-case scenario is teaching your child about bodily autonomy and consent—even if they leave without piercings. That lesson alone shows them they are safe, heard, and respected. 

-Dan Duke